“You know that girl sitting in the corner” yelled my friend
sitting across me in a hotel, “She ditched me when I was in 11th
standard and went around with another friend of mine. As he said this, his face
fell and he was fuming with anger. The delicious pizza which he was feasting on
before he saw that girl did not interest him further. Our conversation which
was climbing high altitudes of life, career, health had started dropping to
lowest depths of anger, frustration and irritation. But there you are, the reason for misery –
the girl who ditched him sipping her coffee and giggling away with her
friends. A simple thought crossed my
mind – having so much hatred towards somebody when the other person is enjoying
and hardly aware of your anger, is it really worth it?
When you ask someone to forgive somebody, what is the
initial reaction you get? “Why should I forgive her, you don’t know what she
has done to me? I will not leave her” But
my dear do you know what you have done to yourself because of this? Your
fertile brain which could have been invested for your good health and wealth
has been infected by your hatred and anger. Some might argue that hatred gives
direction and motive in life. If that is the case, wouldn’t have countries like
Syria, Iraq and Pakistan be the world’s most developed and successful
countries. A mind devoid of any hatred
and anger is always creative as well as productive.
It’s really a pity that a person with anger and hatred is
really looked up to nowdays. A messenger of peace and nonviolence is typecasted
as weak and passive. If that is the case, a thin, frail and bespectacled person
with a stick in his hands wouldn’t have got us Independence. When we had so
many aggressive freedom fighters during that time, it was only Mahatma Gandhi
whom they finally gave into. Being peaceful, doesn’t mean being passive.
As Sri Sri Ravishankar says “Patience in mind and Dynamism in action”. Right
action comes to your mind only when you are at peace.
Hatred is a slow poison, it might give a pleasure feeling
that you are achieving something, but in longer run, it eats you up from
within.
